How to Get My Ex Boyfriend back?

Breakup can be tormenting and it can be very difficult to get over them especially for women. When a woman decides to enter into a relationship, mostly, she wants it to last. If you have recently gone through a breakup, then you might be feeling emotionally drained and may be thinking about you should do next. You may be thinking about getting your ex-boyfriend back but if you want this to happen then you will have to pull yourself together first. You do not need to apply any rocket science to do it as the strategy is very simple. The only glitch is that you will have to control your emotions, which is hard to do in such situations. Here are a few tips for you to consider and these will surely help you out.

Pull yourself together

There are differences in every relationship but breakup is not the ultimate solution. Just think over what went wrong and what the available options are if the fault is at your end. The good news is that couples get together even after some ugly breakups. Think of the situations that brought your relation to a dead end. This will allow you to think straight and follow the plan.

Have faith in yourself

Yes, you love him and consider him out of this world but you also brought something to the relationship. You are also special in many ways and all you need to do is make him realize that.

Pinpoint what went wrong

Get yourself together to assess what caused the relationship to fall apart. Was it your laid back attitude or were you being too clingy. There should no shame in admitting the mistakes you have made in the past and there is no harm in it either.

Limit contact

Women make this mistake sometimes and think that they can get the attention of their ex by remaining in front of them. He may think you are stalking him and desperately need him back and this will make the situation worse for you. If you accidentally meet him then keep the conversation short and if he tries to call you and you miss it, do not be too prompt to call back. Allow him to miss you and realize what you are for him.

Keep busy

Go out with your friends; concentrate on your work and start on a new hobby. This will distract you from the breakup and give you a much-needed break. This will increase your self-confidence, as you will get to interact with new people. Your ex will start to think that you have moved on. That is when he will realize what he has lost, and then he will start to make amends. Word of caution here, do not go back to him immediately as he makes a wish to give the relationship another shot. He needs to make an effort, and this will only make him value you more.

Be yourself

Some women are too sensitive and do not want to move on after a breakup. They think that there is no charm left in their life and regardless of whose fault it was that ended the relationship. They neither get over it nor go back to their ex. This is not going to help you in any way. If you want him back, you will have to show signs and will have to keep yourself open.
You should give it another shot because if it doesn’t work out, you will have no regret that you did not try or think that you could have got your ex boyfriend back.

© 2011 Usman Shahid